Sunday, September 27, 2009

A Visit From Judy

A few weeks ago we had a lovely
visit from Jay's mom, Judy.
She took time off work,
time away from other family, and a long time driving in the car to get to us.
She's so good with the kids... and they adore her . She was so gracious to treat Jay & I to dinner by ourselves, at a restaurant of our choice. Judy probably doesn't know this, but the most special part of the visit for me was when she was about to get in her car to go home and she called out "You've got great kids. You're doing a great job." You're doing a great job. Hearing that meant so much to me. Sometimes as a mother, you just need an 'atta girl' once in a while, just so you know you're not completely messing up your kids as you fumble around motherhood. Judy is very respectful and supportive of my parenting, for which I'm so grateful. And although she's never said a word against me, I can't imagine she always agrees with my choices. That's why that comment was so special to me. It was generous and it was validating and it lifted me up. Thank you, Judy! X's and O's to you.

16 comments:

CottageGirl said...

Judy is a beauty, isn't she? Your husband is a lucky guy to have 2 gorgeous women in his life!

That is a very sweet mother-in-law you have, Elle. Being a mother-in-law myself, I don't think Judy would say anything unless she felt it in her heart.
So take those pats on the back and be secure in knowing that you ARE doing a great job!

Texas Lisa said...

Sooo nice! She does NOT look old enough to be a grandma!

Flat Creek Farm said...

The highest compliment!! You are such a beautiful family. Mind you, I am far away, but I am knowledgeable in these things since I'm old enough to be a grandma (someday I hope). And yes, I wholeheartedly agree.. you're doing a great job :) -Tammy

McVal said...

Oh, that's so nice! When they say that and MEAN it!
You've got a very special family!

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

What a blessing to have a mother in law that not only loves and respects your parenting but tells you so.

She's right, you're a great mom!

COUNTRY MOM said...

I totally agree!!! You are doing a great job... You are an awesome mom. Thank You for sharing. What a touching post. Please accept the awards on my blog. You deserve everyone of them.

Tammy ~ Country Girl at Home ~ said...

I can imagine what that meant to you, Elle! And I'm sure this post meant alot to her as well!

Tammy

southerninspiration said...

how wonderful that you have a great mother in law.....I have one, too and I have learned so, so much from her!
You ARE a great mom!!!

Suzanne

Dandy said...

I've said it before and I'll say it again... what a gorgeous family you have. Every single one of you. And your dimples, oh my.

I'm so glad you had such a wonderful visit and I never, ever doubt you are a great mom.

Christina said...

It's so wonderful to have in-laws that love you, and support you! I love my husband's family, and they have always treated me just like one of the bunch. :)
Grandma's are the BEST! Glad your time was good.

Salitype said...

oh! it is indeed up lifting and warming to know that someone gives you a tap on the shoulder , a hug, a thought and words for a job well done.

have a lovely day!

Susan said...

Being validated and respected by your mother-in-law, who obviously did a great job raising her son, is truly something to treasure.

From what I've seen here, she was only telling the truth. Kudos to you, Elle!

curegirl0421 said...

What all those other posters said...

Being validated is a wonderful feeling.

And you are totally doing a great job! Happy kids are a sign of fine parenting.

Kris said...

What a great moment!

Relyn said...

She's so beautiful, too. You are so blessed to have a delightful mother-in-law. There's no greater blessing - other than a wonderful husband. Which she gets credit for, too, actually.

Buckeroomama said...

You are a great mom, but yes, I totally understand that part about getting some validation sometime. :) Your MIL paid you the ultimate compliment and you deserve it.

Your kids have a very good- and young-looking grandma!